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ORGASM:
intense
or paroxysmal excitement; especially : an explosive
discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height
of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied
by the ejaculation of semen in the male and by
vaginal contractions in the female. - Merriam
Webster's Collegiate Dictionary
The
vast majority of women cannot achieve orgasm through
sexual intercourse alone and need various kinds
of clitoral stimulation. Unfortunately, a lot
of men do not understand this. The media is to
blame for the lack of information regarding orgasm
in the female. Every porno film and even major
motion picture depicts women achieving orgasm
solely through penis-vagina penetration. In the
world of true sexual satisfaction, both time and
technique must be taken to fulfill the needs of
the female sexual partner.
What
should be considered when addressing orgasm in
the female?
The word clitoris comes from the Greek work "Key",
signifying the essential part in the female orgasm,
and thus most women cannot achieve orgasm through
penetration alone.
Become comfortable with your anatomy. Find out
exactly where your clitoris is. Some women have
never even explored the area. This is the start
to a new sex life. Using a mirror may be beneficial
if you are unfamiliar with your genital area.
Masturbate! Masturbate! Masturbate! The majority
of women that have not experienced an orgasm have
also not experienced sexual pleasure alone. The
social reasons for this can be dated back centuries
ago, as women felt it was a sin or simply that
it was not lady-like. Leaving a man to find his
way through the extensive nerve valleys of your
body and stimulate just the right spot is hardly
possible. Sure it can happen, but don't plan on
it! So, how should a female find these spots?
Click here for common
techniques and information.
Once you understand how and where to be pleasured,
you must show your partner exactly what you have
learned on your body. If he has some intuition,
he could learn by you using his fingers is a sort
of joystick and doing the motions for him until
he gets the picture. You will probably feel very
embarrassed when showing your partner, who probably
thinks he is God's gift to women, how to please
you. Just remember, he is most likely more embarrassed
than you, once he understands that you have mastered
the art of the orgasm and have to teach him. Show
him the motions of how you masturbate. You must
now find creative ways to incorporate this into
your sex lives. Taking his hand and rubbing it
down your body to your clitoris is a sexy way
to start foreplay. Have him continue until you
want to move on. You may even want to use a vibrator.
Be careful though, you may reach orgasm prematurely
and not be able to have another orgasm during
intercourse.
If you are unable to have an orgasm during intercourse
then you should try different positions that allow
for manual stimulation either by you or your partner.
If this doesn't work, try a vibrator with sex.
Make sure your partner does not feel threatened
by you touching yourself or by using a vibrator.
Assure him that he is exceptional in bed and the
vibrator and manual stimulation is only to push
you "over the edge". Once this has been
mastered, you can even find ways to leave out
manual stimulation or a vibrator during intercourse
at all. When a man can keep his weight and pelvis
bone constantly on your clitoris, it can act as
your fingers or a vibrator. Also, lying on your
stomach and having your clitoris rubbing a pillow,
bed, or wherever you chose while your partner
is behind you can easily be the next step after
you have found your exact spots of pleasure.
If you have tried everything carefully and on
multiple occasions to no avail, you should definitely
try some libido
enhancing supplements. Sometimes, lack of
blood flow to the area can be a problem. The biggest
problem, however, usually lies in how comfortable
you are with your partner and your surroundings.
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