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Proper Setting
The
first and probably most important aspect of masturbation
is your thoughts and feelings both before and
during. You must be fully relaxed without stress
or worry. It is essential to make some time for
you and only you. Find a time of the day when
you will not be disturbed. Turn off your television,
cell phone and anything else that can distract
you. Having children may add to the hassle of
making a proper time and place. The bathroom is
a good choice, as you have a lock on the door,
shower head, and tend not to be bothered while
"showering". The other most common place
is your bedroom. A lock on the door is necessary
to be confident that you will have no unwanted
visitors. Candles add to the setting in either
room.
Learn What Makes Your Clitoris Feel Good
Exploring your own body is essential. If you are
very unfamiliar with your body, review our anatomy
page and orgasm page. Understanding what makes
you feel good and what doesn't is very important
before starting. Some women do not like penetration
with their own fingers while others love it. No
two women's anatomies are alike. Move your labia,
see anatomy page, and begin lightly rubbing your
clitoris in different motions. Begin with an up
and down motion. Vary the speed your fingers move
until you find what works. Understand that the
slightest movement change can make the world of
difference. It takes some women years to master
the technique. Now, try a circular movement, rubbing
your clitoris both clockwise and counterclockwise
starting from a variety of origins. Some women
like to start this motion an inch or so above
the clitoris. Try one, two, or three fingers.
An easy way to master this motion is to pretend
that you are drawing circles on and slightly above
and below your clitoris with your forefinger or
forefinger and middle finger. Keep exploring until
you find what makes you feel good. Also, at different
points of your sexual stimulation, different techniques
will have different effects on you. So, don't
give up because it doesn't feel good right away.
Learn What Else Works
Invest in some lubricant and begin exploring penetration
with your finger(s). Once you are moderately aroused
using the above stimulation methods, begin slowly
inserting your forefinger one and two knuckles
deep into your vagina. Slowly thrust your finger
in and out simulating intercourse. Vary the speeds.
Try curling your finger up when you are inside
and feel the upper portion of your vaginal wall.
With your finger inserted, move your forefinger
in a circular motion to feel all 360 degrees of
your vagina. Be sure to touch every little crevice
and rub it with different strengths and motions.
Try adding a finger or two. Once you think you
have an idea of what feels good, begin trying
this in different positions such as standing,
lying on your stomach, legs around a chair's back,
etc. Be creative. This is your alone time. Nothing
is wrong - you control every aspect of this and
no one else can know or see you. Do not feel uncomfortable.
Techniques and Methods
Manual
Stimulation
Circular
Motion:
Place either your forefinger or your forefinger
and middle finger on top of you clitoris. Begin
moving them in a circular motion over top of the
clitoris, possibly extending a bit below or above
your clitoris. Using lubrication can increase
the intensity of your orgasm and decrease the
length of time needed as well.
Clitoral
Kneading:
Gently grab your clitoris between your thumb and
forefinger. Knead it back and forth like there
is a marble sized piece of dough between your
fingers. Vary the speed and strength.
Tapping:
This technique works for few women, but works
extremely well for these few. Spread your labia
exposing your vagina. Now, gently tap your clitoris
and some of the are just under. Again, this feels
good for very few women.
Finger
Penetration:
This is a simple ease way to achieve orgasm when
doing in addition to the above circular motion
method. Using lubricant or first getting aroused
with an above method, insert one or two fingers
inside your vagina, thrusting in and out. Different
speeds and multiple fingers can spur a spontaneous
orgasm. Read the sections above for more information.
Water
Using
water to your sexual advantage in the shower both
alone and with a partner can be a very fulfilling
experience. Below are some techniques.
Faucet
Flow:
Most bathtubs will allow for this type of body
position. If yours does not, you may want to purchase
a showerhead with a rubber hose so that you can
aim it wherever you please. First, turn the running
water on in your bathtub gently and to a temperature
that is lukewarm. You do not want to scold your
genital area! Now, lie on your back with your
feet towards the running water. Scoot forward
in the bathtub and let your feet slide up the
shower wall or in the air. Align your vagina with
the falling water. Letting it fall on your clitoral
area and your vagina may be enough. You may want
to use any of the above methods in addition to
this. You can vary the strength of the flow and
the temperature of the water. I can not emphasize
enough - do not make drastic changes in the temperature!
Scolding in that area is not pleasant!
Showerhead
Massage:
If you have tried all of the above methods including
the faucet flow then you this one will probably
be self-explanatory. Each showerhead is different.
Experiment with different positions, temperatures,
and strengths of the water. Some heads even have
different massaging options. Aim the water stream
wherever it feels good. That's it. This is a great
daily wake up when showering!
Vibrators/Dildos
Vibrator:
Using a vibrator is much more effective in achieving
orgasm in most women. Purchasing one with varying
speeds is a good idea. Rubbing it all over your
body, especially the nipple area, inner thighs,
and clitoris are among the most favorite spots.
Many like to use a moderate to fast speed until
slightly before climax and then lower the speed
to bring the sensual pleasure down. Continue this
until you can't continue "holding" the
orgasm. Some women like using a gel-coated, penis
shaped vibrator to stimulate the clitoris and
use it as a dildo, turning the vibration on and
off.
Dildos:
Using a dildo instead of your fingers, or instead
of a man for that matter, can be a powerful sexual
experience. I would not recommend latex as it
is difficult to keep clean. Gel coated dildos
are preferable. Infections can easily occur when
it is not kept meticulously clean. The technique
is similar to that of finger penetration and clitoral
stimulation should be used as well. Using some
of the water stimulating methods in addition to
a dildo is a fun variation.
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